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I am a straight man who has had experiences years ago with a couple of men and now I have a bad urge to have a discreet encounter with a man without having my wife finding out. Since I do remember, sex with men was not that bad at all. What should I do?
Jeff
Dear Jeff,
You are not alone, it is estimated that about 80% of all gay men choose to live the lifestyle of the majority. Some people choose to call it closeted gay men but others, like me, call it bi-sexual.
I have to say you put me in a quiet a situation here, you're asking me if it is ok to cheat on your wife and have sex with a man, without her knowing it. That is of course how most do it but perhaps a different approach could achieve even better results.
What most men do, around their 40's when the urge re-surfaces, they come out and with a bang. Most have a wife, few kids, house, a car, dog and all the things that straight people work so hard for in their life. I have a few personal friends that have just been in your situation and the best thing that happened to them was to get out and live the lifestyle they had been dreaming for so long.
But like with life this is your choice, I can't recommend or tell you not to cheat on your wife, but the more honesty you have in your life the better you will feel.
Yours truly,
Dr. Gay
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